Yes, they did seem to change that story around a lot because at times Sophia would talk about Phil's crossdressing as if it was a big joke and not an issue, then it was totally different at Phil's funeral.

What else was funny, but unrealistic, about that episode is Phil's crossdressing poker buddies coming from New Jersey to attend Phil's funeral in drag.

I wonder if but Sally thought it was appropriate or cared since she did say it didn't start with me.

I think the cross dressing was always a problem for Sophia, but she would occasionally joke about it as a coping mechanism.